Don’t go to Rehab. Go to Prehab.

In the unconsciousness of our addictions we are at a Distance from Ease. There is no ease in the body for we are disconnected from it. There is no ease in the mind because of the constant flow of garbage being sent to it from the subconscious. There is no ease in the spirit as we have lost sight of our Soul and its mission. The great tragedy of addiction is simply that we are divine beings that have utterly lost connection with that truth.

Imagine you come upon a blind man on the street who is begging for food. At his feet, a sumptuous banquet is laid out, but he cannot see it or even smell it. You explain to him that he does not need to beg for food, that he only need to reach out and partake in the blessings at his feet.

“You are wrong,” he tells you, “There is no banquet at my feet.” You are looking at a spread of incredible fruits and nuts, breads and cheeses. To you, it is plain as day, but the more you try to tell him that he does not need to beg for sustenance, the harder he fights to stick to his story that he does.

How can we be so lost as to not know who and what we are? The great majority of us are born into a world that tells us about limitation and smallness. From a young age, we are trained in our own powerlessness and spend the rest of our lives trying to find and express our power.

When the quest for power, which is an archetypal journey, goes astray it becomes one of the great drivers of acute addiction. Unless we are given a path with tools and practices that work to unravel our misunderstandings and neuroses and replace them with the divine light of knowing which is also called Truth, we run the risk of a life half-lived. We will always be hungry despite the bounty at our feet, always trying to solve a riddle that cannot be solved.

That was me before I found Kundalini Yoga back in 2003.

I have written a fair amount about my teacher, Guruprem Singh Khalsa. Here, I will simply say “thank you, Guruprem, for teaching me about “Prehab,” giving me the tools to uplift my consciousness and transform my inner life which, of course, transformed my outer life.”

A word about “Prehab.” Prehab is for everyone, and he or she who learns the lessons of Prehab will never have to go to rehab like I did. I learned the lessons of prehab 14 years after rehab. Well. Better late than never. In Prehab, we learn how to sit, how to stand and how to walk.

Sitting: Can you sit cross-legged on the floor or ground in comfort and ease? For most of us, the answer is no. In Prehab, we learn how to sit consciously, how to breathe consciously, how to connect literally with the Earth beneath us and to develop patience and the capacity to pass time productively.  People who struggle with addictions do not have this critical skill.

Standing: You can tell nearly everything about a person by the way they “carry” themselves around. Are you able to stand with your pelvis and spine properly aligned, with your feet and legs actively pressing down into the Earth with your heart up-lifted and your chest open so that your breath can flow freely and fully? This is called Tadasana or mountain pose. In Prehab, we practice this in order to develop the right relationship to gravity, to the Earth, to be in divine alignment and to come to know what we stand for in the world.

Walking: Once we know how to sit and stand we can now progress to the advanced practice of walking. How do you move through time and space? How is your relationship with gravity? Is there freedom in your body and breathing? Are you leaving a pleasant energy in your wake or does your manner of moving around bring discord rather than harmony?

In Prehab we learn what we are walking toward. What is our destiny path and where does it lead? Once you know this in the very cells of your body, then you have realized who and what you are and addiction will have a challenge getting a foothold in you.

These are the lessons that have been passed down to me by my teacher and his teacher and so on. Working with the physical body is key.  The meditation and breath-work is key. This practice makes day-to-day reality sweeter while delivering a person from darkness to light, from addiction to recovery and from dis-ease to Ease. This is Recovery 2.0 and I wish it for you.

In Love and Gratitude.
Tommy Rosen

PS – For an outrageous, life-enhancing, soul-nourishing experience, Join the worldwide Kundalini Yoga community for the next 2 weeks at the annual Summer Solstice Gathering in New Mexico. Check it here: http://www.3ho.org/summer-solstice/

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Upon The Tears Of My Father

Dear Friends,

dad cryingWhen I was 5 years old I spilled a large glass of milk on a shiny glass table after my dad had pleaded with me to use both of my hands. He lost his composure and yelled at me in a manner, which was inappropriate given the situation. Right after he finished ranting, he realized he had badly over-reacted and quickly came over to make up. “I’m so sorry, Tommy,” he said as he reached out to hug me.

I pulled away from his grasp and yelled back at him, “I hate you. I hate you.” My dad fell to his knees and started crying right there and then. I was utterly shocked. I ran back, threw my arms around him and told him how sorry I was that I had said that. We hugged each other tightly and after a few minutes, we stood up and the moment seemed to be over. For me, though, the emotional shockwave from that moment would carry itself to the end of my Dad’s life thirty years later.

From that moment forward, I wanted to do whatever I could to prevent him from ever crying again. Right there, we had developed a pattern of co-dependency, which grew in shape and size over the years. Our closeness was intense and our loving bond, amazingly strong. Some times it was painful to love someone so much. It became overwhelming.

Throughout my childhood, Dad would come to all my sports games and support me in every way possible. One thing I will always remember was that no matter what his problems were and despite any challenges we would later experience, when I needed him he dropped everything else in his life and showed up for me 100%.

About 15 years after the spilt milk event, I was at the tail end of my addiction to crack cocaine. I had taken drugs and alcohol about as far as one could and on this particular morning I woke up without anyone to turn to and without anywhere to go. I had no next move. I thought to call my dad.

I told him how bad things were, how I had no girlfriend or friends to speak of. How this had happened and that had happened. I told him everything I could – except for the truth. Then he simply stated, “You’re on drugs. I know you’re on drugs! Aren’t you?” I said, “Yes, Dad, I am.”

He said bluntly that I was going to have to go to rehab. I then bluntly replied that I would not go. There was a silence on the phone that lasted about 10 seconds. Then I realized my Dad had started to cry.

All of my arrogance and stubbornness fell to the side as I glimpsed what effect I had on him. The next day, I flew to his home in Los Angeles. He had insisted on seeing me first. Four days later, I went off to rehab to begin my life anew. The nightmare of acute addiction was coming to an end.

Addiction is a mysterious thing. You never know what it will take to break its forcefield and allow a person to change his course and survive. My recovery was initiated upon the tears of my father.

Please join me on the Recovery 2.0 Power Hour on InTheRooms.com

Sending you all Strength and Love on your recovery journeys,


Tommy Rosen

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The Issues are in Your Tissues

AdYoga and 12 Step Recoverydiction comes from somewhere. It is not an accident. It is the result of traumatic causes most often beyond our control. Nikki Myers, Recovery 2.0 presenter and founder of Yoga and 12 Step Recovery, talks about how all addiction is rooted in trauma of one kind or another. Nikki has lived through acute drug addiction and several relapses. She will tell you herself that she paid “high prices to live in low places.” 

Whatever the specific causes of our traumas, we must work them out or pay an enduring price. Dis-Ease comes from constipation of some kind. It may be that our blood is stuck in our arteries, our bowels are clogged, our mental capacities are hindered or our spiritual energy is held up in some way. Whatever the case, we have to unclog ourselves at every level if we are to become whole-hearted people who are thriving in life. Part of the de-clogging process is to deal with our traumas – the unprocessed, undigested emotional energy stuck in the body. As Nikki describes it, “The issues are in our tissues and we have to process them out.”

I love Nikki Myers and appreciate her spirit and dedication in helping others overcome addiction. She is popularizing a new meeting format, which includes the 12-Steps, yoga and meditation. There are now over fifty Y12SR meetings around the country and they are taking off like wildfire. There seems to be strong interest in an approach to recovery, which includes the body and breath in addition to the 12-steps.

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A Celebration of Healing

Yoga, Meditation and Recovery Conference:
A Celebration of Healing

November 4th – 9th, 2012 | Esalen Institute, Big Sur, CA

Featuring:
Rolf Gates
Noah Levine
Nikki Myers
Tommy Rosen
Heidi Sormaz

This retreat celebrates the ancient tools and practices of yoga and meditation as ways to deepen the exploration of recovery from addictions within the mond/body continuum. It brings together a dynamic collection of teachers and healers from a wide variety of backgrounds in this work who will share their experience, strength and hope through the journey from addiction to recovery.

For More Information and to Register
www.esalen.org
Esalen Institute
55000 Highway 1
Big Sur, CA 93920
831-667-3005

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